First Time Anal Sex

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Will it hurt? What’s the best way to be taken the first time? I want it to be romantic - and with the right guy. Is it better with a small cock or doesn’t it matter? What if he shoots inside me?  I’d love five guys one after the other to plough me.  Should I practice with a dildo to get used to the feeling? What’s the best lube to use?

When we’re thinking about being penetrated for the first time these and other questions take over our thinking. Today, let’s just discuss one of these – taking your time.

Possibly the only time that you’ve had your anus entered is when your doctor digitally penetrated your anus when he examined your prostate (you have had a prostate check up recently haven’t you?). You were hesitant at first but if truth be known you kind of liked what the effect was. The doctor used lubricant, his gloved finger penetrated with little inconvenience, your sphincter relaxed and when he withdrew you realised that the experience had been more than pleasant. What it also told you was that your anus, however tight you felt it was, was able to be opened. Anal sex was therefore possible with the right man. Perhaps not at first with a thick or extra long cock, but certainly with a small to average one.

Therefore have your partner take time to massage your anal area with his finger and lubricant. Possibly let him rim you with his tongue (make sure you have douched and showered first). The anal region then becomes relaxed for entry. After he’s slipped on his condom, let him slowly push in to you – but not all the way. Ask him to move in and out for a period of time, then withdraw, add more lube inside you and onto the condom and re-enter. By now you should be happy about his entering you fully and you should be relaxed and saying to yourself "Why have I waited so long in my life for such exquisite pleasuring". If not, repeat the lubing procedure. Both of you can then have a great experience and take whatever time you want to reach your climaxes.

Another great way for a first time is for you to sit on him or to back on to his waiting erection. In this way, you have complete control as to how fast, how deep and how enjoyable you want it to be.  And if it is slightly painful you can say that it’s enough for this session. But let's try it again next time.

Do not let him enter you without sufficient lubrication or a condom – or if he wants to be overly assertive just for his own pleasure. It’s your body and you deserve all the pleasure you can get. Have safe fun.

Disclaimer: All advice and information given here on this blog is general in nature and non-specific to any individual, couple or group. You are encouraged to seek your own independent professional medical, psychological and counselling advice. 

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