Thursday 28 February 2013

The Perineum: Giving The Best Pleasure Ever!


The perineum is a fabulous erogenous area between the scrotum and the anus where nerve endings are prolific. It is greatly underrated and all too frequently not even known as a pleasure zone. Use these techniques to pleasure your partner and you’ll be amazed at the results.  Instead of a surface relief he’ll find deep inner sexual satisfaction which will touch his deepest pleasure zones. And all you need is a willing tongue and an agile finger...

Using the tongue – have your partner lie on his back whilst you take control of giving him pleasure. Begin with some tongue action in the groin area between where his shaft enters his body and his leg. Men seem to be divided into love this or hate this, so take notice of his reactions. If he loves this tongue pleasuring you will send him into wild ecstasy – and you can then be sure that the following tonguing will continue and increase that ecstatic pleasure.

Move to his balls. Whilst you are down there licking them, giving the sac gentle nips and slowly rolling each testicle around in your mouth, take a moment or two to travel a little further south and find the area about half way between where you were playing and his anus. It’s generally smooth skin so your tongue can slowly caress the area. Again, a little nip can be used and lots of quick tongue darts to contrast with the smooth tonguing. Depending on your preferences you can continue further south and rim his anus and butt cheeks before undertaking a repeat journey back to his shaft. By the time your tongue returns to it’s starting point in his groin you can be sure he’ll be begging for some immediate oral relief. Just take your time with this – let him enjoy his deep pleasure and let time and continual pleasuring give him an amazing indulgent sensual experience. You’ll certainly be invited back again as your experience in giving this pleasure is all too rare.

Use finger pressure – another great joy of the perineum is to use light finger pressure to help control his ejaculation. Whilst giving him oral use the knuckle of your index finger to gently massage the area. This will give your partner intense inner feelings. When he is about to shoot his load is another good time to have finger pressure on the perineum. As he begins to shoot, increase the pressure to slow his ejaculations, then release the pressure and watch the additionally powerful spurt shoot a longer distance than normal. He’ll also feel a deeper inner satisfaction than normal. If he’s a big cummer you can use this technique a couple of times and add great pleasure to his climax.

If you follow these techniques and practise a few times, don’t be surprised that you will be labelled a great lover. So few men take the time to enhance their love making by adding these pleasures that when a man receives such attention then he is extremely grateful for the deep pleasuring that results. It’s all about you giving up your immediate pleasure to make sure that your partner has a great time. Smile inwardly knowing that through the simple use of your tongue and finger that you’ve given a much appreciated erotic gift.

And by the way, the perineum is not just an exclusively male erogenous zone – your female partners will also appreciate your attentive tongue!

Wednesday 20 February 2013

Mature Age Men Get More Sex!


Thirty plus years ago there was a widespread adage that, for lack of proof, implied that any man who was by his nature bisexual or gay would:

- lose interest in sex from around 50 years of age onwards
- lose the ability to get an erection
- have no friends or partner
- would be lonely, ‘bitter and twisted” and,
- would die without being noticed by the community.

That’s a really hefty load of nonsense baggage for mature age men to carry with them. Unfortunately I suspect that many men over 50 do have at least a small memory of that adage that sleeps in the brain and occasionally when things don’t go so well sexually, leaps in to life with an “I told you so”.

If this has a tinge of truth to it for you, let me reassure you that it’s been my very happy pleasure to see multitudes of happy men putting this old chestnut out to pasture and telling it to f**k off from their lives.

Mature age bi-curious men and those who identify as gay are having more sex now than they’ve ever had in their earlier life. I’d like a dollar for every man who has said something along those lines to me. F**k buddies, male bathhouses and Internet dating all continue to bring men together for sex. By taking positive action to seek good sex these men are certainly not lonely, with many an initial sex encounter developing in to friendship. Using sex as the introduction card is a tried and tested formula for enlarging the contacts in your life.

If there are erection issues these can be enhanced with medication and devices. Pleasurable sex doesn’t have to necessarily include penetration, with many a man who has difficulty in having erections becoming an insatiable bottom for other men.

Mature age often means more time for foreplay – a spa, massage, kissing, showering together, rimming, licking, enjoying poppers. Share conversation and possibly include an alcoholic drink and you have a relaxed and meaningful encounter. It can also mean relaxed day meetings rather than late night ones. It means you have time to travel on vacation together and enjoy sex with one another and with additional partners you might meet up with. It means taking the chance to fly to another city and meet up with a hot Internet date. You can visit nude groups and beaches, enjoy jack-off and special interest sex groups, enjoy festivals with all their life style attractions of theatre, music and sex events. You have reached that delightful time of your life where can be yourself without any pretensions.

And by my reckoning, huge numbers of mature age, older men are having heaps more sex than most young people. Just don’t tell the young ones – and anyway, they probably wouldn’t believe you.

Above all, you’ve reached an age where you don’t have to worry about your body shape or size. You’re expected to have the body scars of a life well-lived. You’re expected to see life as pleasurable and within your reach. You’re also expected to be forthright and ask for what you want. Your wallflower years are behind you – NOW is the time for living.

When retirement from employment happens you could be very pleasantly surprised to see how enriched your life becomes. I’ve observed a strong sense of community with retirees and there is much friendship, easy and frequent sex, a caring eye kept on the health of friends and a strong sense of support.

If you carry internal messages that are not supportive of a happy, diverse and sexually active lifestyle, perhaps it’s time to bid them farewell. You deserve a sexually rich and happy retirement surrounded by like-minded men. They are out there living their lives to the max – come and join them and be free of the demons from your past.

Wednesday 6 February 2013

Happy Endings: Massage For The Bi-Curious


It is said that everyone should have a regular massage as these can be very beneficial for health.

For married and partnered men a massage with a sexually friendly masseur (usually advertised in the classified sections of gay newspapers both in print and their on-line versions) can also be a safe, intriguing and satisfying experience. It can be a first foray into the world of man pleasure without risk, guilt or questions asked and it’s in a safe, one-to-one private environment.

By choosing a gay masseur you already know that nudity won’t offend and that you will be in experienced hands. If you are seeking first and foremost a quality massage then be aware that not all practitioners are fully qualified or skilled. Many who also offer sexual services will for a short time move some oil around on you and then as quickly as possible, get you sexually aroused and masturbate you.

It should not be seen as a foregone conclusion that just because a masseur advertises in the gay press that you can expect a “happy ending” (that is, at the conclusion of the massage he will masturbate you to climax). This is something that needs to be negotiated in advance and because of prostitution laws, this in fact may be a service that is illegal to offer. The masseur may also not want to be known as a sexual service provider and will therefore advise that “this is not a sexual service”.

For a closeted bi man a massage can offer an opportunity for:

  • a genuine feel-good massage

  • a chance to be pampered by another naked man (and most don’t mind being touched up by their client whilst the massage is underway, so a chance to actually touch another man’s body, balls and penis)

  • a climax through the masseur’s skills at masturbation.  You can be guaranteed that a good masseur will always stimulate his client to a roaring erection at some stage during the massage. This is just a natural and normal reaction to being pleasured by his hands in your erogenous zones. However, don’t expect that he will let you jack him off unless there is a strong mutual attraction between the two of you

  • a chance to talk and to ask questions about gay issues both sexual and lifestyle. (Many a gay masseur could well be a counsellor if he so decided. Like hairdressers, they hear the most amazing sexual confessions from their clients, so if the chemistry is right between the two, then an enlightening conversation can happen)

  • a dip into the gay world without guilt about sex with another person (to my way of thinking one-sided masturbation is not regarded as sex – it’s simply an extension of the massage, a bonus extra).

After the massage he can return back into his heterosexual world thrilled that he feels so great. Not only has his body been relieved of stress and aches, his libido has been satisfyingly drained and maybe, he’s had a chance to express through conversation his inner feelings about being sexually curious about man sex.

It’s a win-win situation for both the masseur and his client. As a first foray for the sexually curious, having a massage with a gay provider may just be the ideal introduction to a happier sexual life without fear, guilt or altering his heterosexual image of himself. 






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