Wednesday 15 May 2013

Jack Off Clubs / Group Masturbation / Wank Groups / Circle Jerks






Visiting a jack-off group can be a great first-step activity for the bi-curious man of any age, whether married or not, who would like to share fun time with other like-minded naked men.  It is a totally safe sex event.

Let me list a few benefits that might interest you:

-       every one is playing in the one room all totally naked (except maybe, for optional footwear)
-       all the men are masturbating each other as pairs or in groups, with participation usually mandatory
-       a wide diversity of ages, culture, body sizes and shapes attend
-       the lights are on high enough to see your partners
-       there’s a lot of conversation and laughter
-       there should be no attitude
-       every one plays in the one room so there’s erotic eye-candy everywhere
-       HIV+ men are welcome and their status is irrelevant in the play area
-       as there is no oral other than kissing and no anal, this is a totally safe-sex event
-       there is no pressure to perform sexually to anyone’s standards. No one is keeping check as to whether or not you cum, get an erection or shoot x number of times
-       it’s about pleasuring
-       it’s about feeling part of a like-minded community
-       it’s about group pleasuring and that’s so different to jacking off on your own or having one-to-one sex in private
-       you can actually touch and pleasure a naked man. Yes, all those lustful looks and thoughts you have when you look at men under communal showers can now become an instant reality
-       expect to find a good proportion of the attendees to be married men

The rules, which are generally universal to all groups include:
-       no fucking
-       no sucking
-       no arse play
-       no force
In summary, “no lips below the hips”.  This is a totally safe sex event.

Some perceived disadvantages might include:
-       it’s regarded by some, especially in the gay community, as ‘not real sex’.  By their standards if you don’t have penetration then you’ve failed the gay sex test. It’s my belief that they have missed the pleasures of the journey that leads to ejaculation
-       different groups use their own favourite lubricants, and these can range from sexual lubricants and commercial hand creams to various forms of vegetable and massage oils. Most will have showers to clean up under but you may have to hide or explain some residue on your skin when you get home
-       they don’t meet often enough. Once you discover this like-minded group of men you may believe that you have found Nirvana and that you want it to be a frequent part of your dual sex life
-       they often meet at night which can be tricky for married guys to attend
-       you’ll soon know how sexually confidant you are when you stand naked in front of some 25+ guys who are beckoning you to come join then for a play

In summary, these groups are very friendly and welcoming.

For a bi-curious man who enjoys his first visit he’ll realise that his sexuality is welcomed, his daily life remains as anonymous as he wants it to be or not be, he knows he doesn’t have to have the body of an Adonis to be sexually attractive to other men, and he can physically have totally safe man-to-man sexual contact without labelling himself gay, queer or bisexual.  He’s simply a man, enjoying the brotherhood and masculinity of other men, in a way that satisfies his inner yearnings for intimacy.

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Groups meet regularly in many American cities, Vancouver and in Melbourne (Australia).  The oldest clubs are the:

New York Jacks (35 years – meet twice a week) http://www.nyjacks.com/

San Francisco Jacks (31 years – meet 2nd and 4th Monday each month) http://www.sfjacks.com/

 
Update: October 2021: The Melbourne Wankers (Australia) after 30 years and some 650 jack-off parties, have now ceased holding parties.
Read about their remarkable history in this short article: 

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