Sunday, 8 September 2013

Cock Ring / Penis Ring – A Beginner’s Guide To A Stronger Erection!


COCK RING / PENIS RING – at their simplest this a device designed to enhance the capture and then the retention of blood in the penis thereby making erections harder and larger, and to many men, adding the ability to last longer before orgasm. They come in a bewildering and imaginative array of sizes, styles, adjustability and comfort and have been part of a man's sexual armoury for thousands of years. Some men use them for fun, others as an assurance that they will get and maintain an erection, and for men suffering erectile dysfunction they can be a useful device in seeking that elusive erection. A ring also gives the wearer a feeling of sexual confidence and such a device is always welcomed by a partner (especially a bottom) as a sign that you are there to give this sex session your very best.  As a ring also helps make the whole equipment appear more magnificent and plumper than normal it will help you stand out in a crowd even if it is all underneath your clothing.

When you want or need an erection that’s hard and will stay hard (and isn’t that all the time) then it’s time to dress-up with a ring. Just go on line to see the imaginings of some very creative penis ring producers – you’ll be amazed and delighted at the huge variety available, many, many more than I describe here. 

Note that one size does not fit all, so it is recommended to actually try on the devices before purchase. And why not talk to your sex partners about why they use their particular one - and perhaps ask for a trial run to experiment with during round two of your encounter. 

Let's have a brief look at the basic models...

How to Apply:
One piece rings: you need to be flaccid to semi-erect. Put a little lube on the shaft and balls for ease of slippage and watch out for catching your pubic hair as your apply the ring. Firstly slip your balls through the ring one at a time until both are on the other side of it. Whilst keeping them there, gently push the flaccid penis head through the top half of the ring allowing the full length of the shaft to follow. Push the ring back against the pubes until comfortable. You now have the ring separating your stomach and the balls and shaft.

Clip on, Velcro or press stud varieties: it doesn’t matter what state of erection you are in when you put them on but you may have to make an additional adjustment once the erection is fully hard.

Basic Styles Include:
Solid Metal, Rubber Or Plastic – these come in various sizes, so personal fitting is advised. Chances are your local sex shop attendant will be happy to assist in helping you try them on. Look totally innocent and helpless and see what develops, especially if the shop is otherwise empty of customers.  I know several men who have received a backroom blow job as a result

Glow In The Dark Silicone – this is a personal favourite. You leave it for 10 minutes under the bedside lamp and voila – your lover knows exactly where to find your equipment no matter how dark the surroundings.  It is also a great conversation starter

Wide Steel Or Chrome – these impress both with their size and their shiny exterior!  Very masculine, so if you are in to the leather or bear scenes you’ll feel very much at ease wearing one. Again, personal fitting is imperative as there needs to be ample space between the pubes and the shaft or between the balls and the shaft for maximum comfort

Press Studs On Leather – again, these can be very impressive to look at and to wear. Because of the fixed space between the studs, adjustment is not always as accurate as you might like, so a personal fitting will ensure maximum comfort is achieved

Velcro On Leather – this offers excellent and controlled adjustment to your particular measurements. Not as commonly used as those listed above, but for ease and speed of putting them on and taking them off this model is tops.

Lasso Style Scrotal Loops – this is a length of silicone tubing that has both ends running through an adjustable button thus allowing easy access to putting on and then making the adjustment. Doesn’t look particularly stylish, but it does the job and is easy for a beginner to use

On-The-Spot Instant Cock Ring – take an unused condom, whilst leaving it rolled up punch a hole through the teat with your finger and instantly you have a stretchable cock ring. Even if you have a partial erection, this stretches over both the shaft and the balls and will sit comfortably around the base of the shaft. Ideal for sexual situations that were not planned or are far from your bedroom

Warnings On Use:
- they should only be worn for limited amounts of time, with 30-45 minutes being a maximum
- if numbness, a change of colour or cold begins in the penis or testicles remove immediately as severe damage can otherwise occur 
- do not fall asleep whilst wearing a device
- after use, wash the ring and/or wipe off any lubricant or cum
- if your erection continues beyond some 30-45 minutes after applying the ring, shows no signs of wilting and you cannot remove the ring, then it's time to seek immediate medical help. Don't delay, as severe damage to the inner workings of the penis can result

And if you’re wearing a metal ring and you are at the airport, perhaps you should visit the bathroom for a quick removal before you attempt to go through security – just a thought!  

Have fun experimenting with the various designs - you'll be wonderfully delighted at how these devices can have such a positive impact on your sexual enjoyment and staying power.


Disclaimer: All advice and information given here on this blog is general in nature and non-specific to any individual, couple or group. You are encouraged to seek your own independent professional medical, psychological and counselling advice. 


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