Monday 29 September 2014

Amyl, Poppers, Rush, Aromas – Pleasure and Danger


For those totally indulgent moments of euphoric sexual pleasure then amyl/poppers can give you the added intensity needed to embrace such a mind-altering state. But with the pleasures there can also be dangers.

It’s a daily fact of life that amyl (or poppers) are widely used throughout the world by bisexual and gay men in their sexual (and dance floor) activities. So as an active sexual male playing with men expect to encounter it.

Just published in Sydney (Australia) are the results of the annual survey into drug use. This survey is taken during the Sydney Gay Mardi Gras and then compared to other community surveys. In the area of Amyl/Inhalants it found that some 42% of gay male respondents used the substances, compared with 9% for lesbians and 0.5% or under for the general population. 

What is it?
Amyl Nitrite or Alkyl Nitrite is a prescription drug particularly used in the treatment of angina. When inhaled it causes a rush of blood to the heart and brain resulting in a euphoric state of awareness that can last for around two to five minutes before being needed to be repeated. This head rush can also feel like a heat flush. It can also be a great relaxant for a tight sphincter and/or the gag reflex muscle in the throat. When inhaling, one nostril is pressed shut whilst the other inhales, and then the action is reversed.


Among my sex buddies there are those who will only use it near the moment of climax as it promptly brings on ejaculation and enhances their orgasm.

There are others who enjoy several sniffs during fucking, especially by the guy who is the bottom. It can help take the edge off any painful insertion for him but really at that heightened moment, the only thing that matters is to be actively involved in the immediate pleasures of deep, consistent and pleasurable fucking irrespective of whether you are active or receiving.

And then there is the player who begins to sniff before the sex begins and continues until its conclusion. Invariably his cock is of little use to his partner once the popper effect sets in. There’s little chance of maintaining an erection, so being a bottom, it allows him to take a pounding for very long periods.

Still others use it for heightening their masturbation activities, especially is they are wanking online to a live audience.

Some things to remember about poppers/amyl:

-       Headaches are common with many brands, both during use and then up to an hour after the immediate euphoric effect subsides. Experiment with different brands used by your partners to see which one suits you best

-       Don’t use it if you are taking erectile enhancement tablets like Viagra or Cialis, or if under blood pressure medication. As these act in the same way as amyl the combined effect can cause fainting, heart attacks or stroke. If you are being treated for anaemia, asthma, or heart conditions consult your doctor before use

-       Don’t combine with alcohol as this can in some cases lead to a loss of consciousness

-       Availability is generally through under-the-counter sales at adult sex shops. It comes in small bottles labelled as “head cleaner”, “upholstery cleaner”, “room ordorant”, or similar names as they cannot be sold as a drug under the actual name and purpose. In countries with more liberal laws you’ll find them displayed on the shelf. There are also many online suppliers through mailorder

-       Can burn the skin. Tip: Before inhaling put a small smear of lubricant or saliva around the nostril area and this wetness will decrease any burning of the skin should the liquid touch it. If the liquid touches the skin a burnt skin area may be obvious for the next 24 hours or more

-       Can cause loss of erection in some men

-       Never to be taken orally – can cause death

-       Product is banned in some countries and strictly controlled in others. It is generally listed as a drug, non addictive though it may be

-       Once opened it loses its original potent efficacy over a month or two

-       Store in a cool, dark place

-       It is very flammable so keep away from heat and flame

-       The name “poppers” came about in the 1980s when the substance was packaged in little glass ampules. When they were crushed they gave a popping sound.

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Poppers can also introduce a new aspect of enjoyment to your love making at home with your wife or female partner. I’m told that it has helped many a reluctant wife to finally allow her to try – and enjoy – anal sex.

With such wide use of amyl/poppers in the male gay community sooner or later you will be offered a sniff of them. It’s often a shared experience so that both of you will enjoy the heightened pleasures. But as often as not, only one partner uses them, so there is no obligation for you to participate too. If you get high on regular sex without stimulants then there is no need to reach for the handy bedside bottle of aroma. The choice is yours – but be informed beforehand of both the pleasures and the dangers.

* Like all mind and body altering substances there are always risks involved depending on the particular individual and the product use. You should always consult trained medical professionals before attempted use.






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Tuesday 16 September 2014

Wife Gives Husband Anal Sex With A Strap-On Dildo aka Pegging

Do you ever wish that your wife or female partner would fuck you?

Ever fantasised about receiving a hot erect penis into your bum and what it would really be like?

You want to receive anal sex but you don't want the reality of going out searching for it?

Then, it's time to consider buying your (understanding and broad-minded) female partner a strap-on.

Pegging is a term to describe where a woman wearing a body harness with a dildo attached, uses it for penetrating her male partner.

According to a husband who recently confided in me about his desire to try being a bottom, it was his wife who came up with the suggestion when she caught him at his computer looking at men having anal sex with other men. This was the second marriage for both, so with the honesty that offered, everything was on the table for discussion when it came to their individual sexual interests. He'd confided in her about his latent interest in gay anal sex - and the fact that between marriages he'd tried it a couple of times and loved it.

He was keen not to be labelled 'deviant' by his usually broad-minded wife and in no way did he want to label himself either gay or bi. He was just a man with limited same-sex experience but he certainly knew for a fact that there were few things more enjoyable than taking a life-like dildo up you. The couple played with their limited selection, mostly being a treat for his voracious wife. But for him to get pleasure he needed that thrusting in/out motion that could only come from an active partner.

So when she suggested he buy her a strap-on (leather is recommended), complete with a new suitably sized phallic replica in it, he couldn't contain his excitement. She was obviously turned on by the opportunity to take the aggressive, active role so this was to become the best of all worlds for him. (Little did he suspect that this was also possibly to control his urges for seeking male-to-male sexual satisfaction beyond the marriage without her knowing about it).

Now he has a totally satisfied look that results from great sex with his wife. Not only is he giving her sexual satisfaction but he's also living his gay fantasies.

He summed up the value of a strap-on by talking about:

- just because he gets a butt-plug inserted in to him, he's not labelled as gay or bi. The sex is still between him and his wife in their own home, so he's as straight as ever he was

- there's no third party (as yet!) to bring jealousies or other emotional baggage into their marriage. In due course having his butt filled by his wife whilst he's sucking off another guy is a high priority fantasy

- it's totally safe sex, hygienic, he chooses the size
of dildo she wears (whilst he's being fucked he likes the added fantasy of a porn star's replicated penis being inside him - yes, he's a size queen but just doesn't know it yet). My friend began with quite a tight arse but can now take much larger widths and lengths

- his ejaculations have dramatically increased in both intensity and fire-power as his prostate is now being directly exercised by the thrusting penis (he's also been known to shoot a load without either himself or his wife touching his cock)

- after a quick hot wash of the item, it's their delight for him to use the same dildo on her (in fact he confided in the delight of frequent double penetration of her using both his own equipment as well as the dildo)

- he enjoys the role reversal where he bottoms and doesn't have to provide the energies or stress over the expectations of always being a top and always being able to satisfactorily perform. As the receiver he luxuriates in just receiving pleasure. And she loves the mirrors that show her being the dominant one. They've filmed him being fucked several times now and both get a great turn-on watching it back

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- when they have travelled together at least one dildo, the strap-on and the lubrication are always the first things they pack (as is the douche as no-one wants an unclean chute to play in)

So, if you're unsure about going down the track towards actual man-to-man anal sex and whether it is right for you, then pegging is a great way to find out within the confines of your own marriage.

As for my married friend, I suspect that very soon he'll want to introduce another man into their marital bed and then go chasing the real thing beyond their home. But for now his wife's enthusiasm for the strap-on is providing great and unexpected pleasure.










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When it is time to have sex with men, you need answers! 

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It's the best couple of dollars you'll ever invest!

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THE VERSATILE HUSBAND: Live Your Passion This is a more comprehensive version of A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS and includes examining why as sexually frustrated men we feel the way we do and what can be done to improve the situation. Particularly useful for any married man who needs more detail  before deciding whether or not to sexually play with men.

e-book and paperback at Amazon.com or
paperback only at your favourite online or local bookstore.

"A straightforward, practical guide for men in heterosexual relationships who'd like to explore sex with other men. Frank, honest and understanding."Kirkus Reviews

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