What’s it feel like to want to participate?
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You can’t yet bring yourself to the idea of long slow kissing with a man nor having his cock fill your mouth. You’re sure that these things will come in due course after you feel more comfortable
with your sexual self. Possibly anal play will also develop to be an attraction.
with your sexual self. Possibly anal play will also develop to be an attraction.
But for now, all you want is a room full of naked everyday type men like yourself who also want to touch and pleasure other like-minded men. Add some oil to be spread over those naked bodies and/or some lubricant for the cock, keep the lights and the music pleasantly low and add some fun conversation and laughter.
Welcome to a typical session at a group masturbation club.
(See links below to find your local event).
You’ve made contact with the organisers, you know the time and the location for the group. You’ve organised a good excuse to cover the time that you’ll be at the party and why you might come home with oil residue on you (an old injury needed a massage). But it’s days away and you can’t believe how slow time travels. Your head is filled with horny anticipation of say 25 naked men standing there in front of you just waiting to play with you. The organiser has explained to you that they will all be guys like yourself – but still you have anxiety about the fact that you’re not gym fit, and you’ve let your body go a bit of late. Will you be able to crack an erection – and maintain it? What if they think I’m hung small and are not interested in me? What if they don’t like uncut guys like me? I’m hairy, will that make a difference?
You’re really keen to play and have that first erotic time with another guy, but if truth be known, you’re shit scared. Surprisingly, one of the main underlying thoughts is ‘what if I enjoy it too much’ – does that make me gay? Answer: You can’t enjoy pleasuring other men too much – and “no”, playing with another man’s cock doesn’t make you gay. You’re simply coming to the group to sexually experiment, to jack off just as you did with some of the other boys from school all those years ago. Ok, you’re an adult now but that doesn’t dispel the need to broaden your sexual horizons in to areas that have long interested you.
Masturbation groups invariably have rules about no oral (that is, cocksucking) or anal (fingering or fucking) so you already know that you aren’t getting into deep sexual territory – and that it will be a totally safe sex event.
When the big day finally comes around don’t be surprised if you sit in the car outside for quite a while building up courage to go inside. You desperately want to be part of this new erotic sexuality but you feel unworthy, that you are crossing an invisible line of guilt set up by your marriage vows, that it’s silly at my time of life to be doing this, etc etc.
As you sit there you’ll notice the other men going inside are in fact ordinary guys like yourself. All ages, and shapes, and sizes. And they are greeting each other with laughter and smiles and camaraderie. These are not men who are slinking in to some backstreet dive, they are proud and happy and eager to participate with other like-minded men who enjoy their body, enjoy touch and savour sensuality in a safe and happy way. And isn’t that what you are really looking for?
Take hold of your courage and get yourself to the front door. Within seconds you’ll be a welcome new participant, you’ll be shown to a room where you can strip down and store your clothes (sometimes you’ll be asked to bring a bag with you) and by the time you’re naked you’ll be happily chatting to other naked guys around you. Walk in to the main play room and all of your erotic and naked dreams will have come true. Who dared imagine that there were so many other interesting men in your locality who think the same way you do.
If at this moment you don’t feel comfortable there is no shame is staying on the sidelines to adjust to this new confrontation. If after a while you realise that group masturbation and nudity is in fact not for you, then dress and quietly depart.
But if you are like me at my first jack off event, I simply said to myself “I’m home” – and plunged in to enjoy every oil-covered man and his cock in that room.
What’s it like to have multiple hands caressing your body and cock? It's time to read the second blog:
Group Masturbation, Jack Off Groups: Step 2: Having Safe Sex Fun!
Group Masturbation, Jack Off Groups: Step 2: Having Safe Sex Fun!
For a full list of group links visit:
Groups meet regularly in many American cities, Vancouver and in Melbourne (Australia). The oldest clubs are the:
New York Jacks (33 years – meet twice a week) http://www.nyjacks.com/
San Francisco Jacks (29 years – meet 2nd and 4th Monday each month) http://www.sfjacks.com/
Update: October 2021: The Melbourne Wankers (Australia) after 30 years and some 650 jack-off parties, have now ceased holding parties.
Read about their remarkable history in this short article:
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