Recently while at the local bathhouse I chatted with a
married man about his dual sex life. Aged in his early 60s he openly admitted
to still having occasional sex with his wife yet he liked nothing better than
an afternoon with ‘the boys’ at the sauna engaged in hot sexual pursuits. He
enjoys being taken by multiple guys in the sling room, loves watching two or
three guys having sex together and will top other married men who are also
there for an afternoon delight. If there is group sex happening then probably
he is part of it if he is not otherwise diverted by an individual conquest. He
thoroughly enjoys the hour or three that he spends there, and he tells me that
he does this on a regular basis every week or two.
What interested me most was the fact that his wife knows
where he goes – and when he arrives home, she frequently wants to know all the
intimate details. As they appear to have an amazing relationship, he proceeds
to then tell her as much as she wants to know. Their children are adults and
they have left home, so what the parents do together, or not together, is
entirely their business. They have
not told the children about dad’s extra curricular activities.
It seems that his wife will sometimes hear all the lurid
details whilst they are both having a coffee just as she would be hearing a bit
of neighborhood gossip. She’ll ask questions about positions, was it
pleasurable or painful, what type of men were the ones he played with and did he
converse with any of them. He did
add, that when he comes back home at night and she is in bed, the revelations
often turn her on to the extent that she puts the vibrator to one side and it
becomes full-on sex for them both.
Intrigued by these revelations I had to ask how it was that
the subject of his bisexuality had been raised in the first place. It seems
that there was a medical issue with his wife that procluded her having sex for
many weeks. Because he was still
highly sexed she knew that he masturbated most days. One time when she
walked in on his wanking she said to him that under the circumstances it would
be alright by her if he found some sex elsewhere. As he’d often wanted her to
have a threesome with one of his best male friends (and they hadn’t) she knew
that sex with a man was foremost in his thinking. “Why don’t you go to the
bathhouse and meet some nice men and have a fun time?”
At first he couldn’t believe what he was hearing and any
way, how did she know about the bathhouse – he’d only recently been told about it himself. (It would seem that wives do a lot of talking amongst themselves and
sometimes they know much more about sexual matters of all kinds that they don’t
reveal to their husband). She added, that when she returned to better health
she wanted to return to some form of sexual fun with him, but for the meantime,
he was given the authority to go out and enjoy himself, to play safely, not
bring anyone home and to promise to tell her every amazing and intimate detail.
And so that is what he did. It’s an amazing wife who
understands the balance in her husband between sexual frustration, guilt and
being open about the sexual gratification needs of them both. If one is too
ill, tired or in some way unable to offer sex should this be an impediment to
the other seeking and finding such relief? When so many married men who secretly play with other men
can’t even contemplate the idea of raising the issue of their sexuality with
their wife, this wonderful woman is a positive role model. How many of us are
thinking right now “... if only she was my
wife!”
I raise my glass to this wonderful woman – a shining example
where the understanding of a marital friendship and family responsibilities can
be weighed against the ongoing sexual needs of her spouse – with a result that
every one wins. May there be many more like her. Cheers!
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