I’ve been fascinated this week about the worldwide interest
in the confession of a woman who stated that post coital her male partner
dips his penis into a bedside tumbler of water whilst waiting to use the
bathroom after she has finished her ablutions.
As I’ve never come across this in all my years of having sex
with men it’s had me thinking about what are some of the issues regarding
post-coital male/male cleanups?
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Or you’ve
shagged without a condom and
(1) you’ve deposited a good load up inside your man which will eventually find its way out though not immediately (again, no pressing time issue here) or
(2) you’ve shot externally over his crack, his buttocks, his back, his chest, his balls or his face so when ready, a quick wipe with a handily located ‘cum towel’ does the trick. Sure, in due course you’ll enjoy a shower to remove the remaining lube and any dry cum, but there’s no need to miss the enjoyable post-sex cuddle and chat by immediately heading off to the bathroom.
(1) you’ve deposited a good load up inside your man which will eventually find its way out though not immediately (again, no pressing time issue here) or
(2) you’ve shot externally over his crack, his buttocks, his back, his chest, his balls or his face so when ready, a quick wipe with a handily located ‘cum towel’ does the trick. Sure, in due course you’ll enjoy a shower to remove the remaining lube and any dry cum, but there’s no need to miss the enjoyable post-sex cuddle and chat by immediately heading off to the bathroom.
Perhaps your sex was limited to oral, so again, he either
swallowed your load or used the towel after you’d spilled like a geyser.
It’s been my experience that most men don’t blow and then
immediately have a need for a clean-up. The exception to this are some Asian
cultures who can blow and be in the bathroom in what seems like the blink of an
eye. If you understand this culture you’ll not be offended that it was anything
you said or did. Mind you, he’ll be back in a short time for round two - it’s
just that he doesn’t want to feel unclean for more than a moment.
Most men I’ve encountered don’t need to rush for a cleanup
shower before beginning another round of sex. If there’s cum still on the cock
that just adds flavor and intimacy to the passion. Many a man will lick clean
his lover’s spilled cum whilst it’s still warm, and by sharing an immediate
kiss there is a heightened mixing of sperm and saliva which is a great way to
continue the intimacy of being in each other’s arms whilst resting between
bouts. All of a man is enjoyable to share and a sticky cock is no exception.
However, if it’s been bare inside your partner, then a wash before oral begins
again is recommended. That’s simple hygiene.
One of the joys of gay male sex can be showering together
after you’ve lingered a while in bed. Share lots of lathering of each other
including cleansing the intimate areas like his cock head and around his
rosebud. When a partner does this for you it takes the sex to another intimate
level, and frequently begins a whole new round of sexual activity. It’s certainly also wise to urinate as soon after sex as possible
as that helps clean out the tract thus lowering the possibility of urethral
infections.
In short, as male lovers, embrace your naked bodies, enjoy
spilling your seed and even more embrace the task of cleaning it up with a
willing tongue and a warm mouth. Dipping your cock in to a glass of water
bedside simply will not substitute for sharing the bathroom together - after
all you’ve just been as intimate as two men can be so this is not the time to
go shy.
So, balance the need for hygiene against ruining the bonding
intimacy that exists immediately after you have both blown. Of course, if you
want to exit the scene then a clean-up shower is a good way to say in action
terms that the session is finished.
But if intimacy is your scene and you’re in to kissing, cuddling and
pleasurable naked body contact then don’t let a bit of stickiness take that
pleasure from you both.
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