Gay anal sex (and even oral sex) should not be always seen as the holy grails for two or more guys seeking sexual enjoyment with each other.
Masturbating, wanking, fellating, beating off, jerking off, tossing off or even choking the chicken or jerking the Johnson, all mean the same thing – having a fun time with your or someone else’s penis.
Playing with your own erection whilst watching other guys beat their own meat can be a real turn on. Imagine the possibilities and locations where such accepted watching can take place – whilst showering in changing rooms, watching guys at outdoor beats having sex, when two horny guys on a business trip share a hotel room, at an isolated location on a fishing trip, the back rooms of a sex bookstore, in your bedroom after a few beers or anywhere your erotic thoughts can take you.
At sex shops there is often a backroom where for a few dollars, men can sit and watch video porn. If oral and/or anal sex are not yet part of your lexicon, yet you want to feel another guy's erection in your hand (and his on yours) this is an ideal location.
In that location it makes everyone there somewhat more equal.
That is,
- they’re all there for some form of mutual blow and go
- they want to watch other guys wanking (so much more erotic than watching a video)
- they want a welcoming hand to reach over from the next door chair or beanbag and start masturbating their erection
- they want to also reciprocate on the cocks of the men either side of them
- the experience can be totally anonymous particularly as talking is frowned upon
- they stay fully clothed except for lowering their trousers and underwear to their ankles (it’s such a turn on for me to see a fully suited business man exposing his erection whilst the neat tie, immaculate shirt and jacket remain firmly in place – if only their clients 30 minutes later could really know why he has such a satisfied smile on his face!)
Whenever a man wants to touch another man’s genitalia there is always that moment of hesitation where lust and desire are balanced by a perceived possibility for rejection and having crossed the invisible barrier of personal space.
Because you are both in a sexual location and both with your roaring erections exposed, it's fairly safe to assume that any advances would be welcome. But it is also wise to back that up with some eye contact or at least a lustful smile of appreciation. His response will tell you to go ahead and fellate him or not. He could also like the idea of some privacy so maybe he’ll indicate that you both go to a private booth. If it’s only the two of you in the room will he indicate his unease if someone new walks in and sits down? Being watched by others can be both a turn-on as well as a turn-off depending on your accepting of your own sexuality and its comfortable boundaries.
These sex lounges, especially in the city areas, also attract a wide range of clientele ranging from the aforementioned suited businessman to tradesman, university and college students to men in sexless marriages.
On my sexual scale that ranges something like solo masturbation>shared masturbation>oral sex>anal sex>group sex, then some shared masturbation can be a great beginning for guys who just want a bit of sexual fun without anything heavy. To touch another guy and know how enjoyable and rewarding that touch can be is a giant but satisfying step towards a broader range of sexual possibilities should he feel the desire to explore further.
Shared masturbating is something that practically all men do at some time in their life. It’s fun and it answers sexual curiosity questions. And it has nothing to do with labelling yourself gay or bi or any other identifying tag. |
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It’s simply about sexual exploration. You have an erection and you’re proud to share it around if others are interested. It’s simply play but don’t tell. And 99% of the times you’ll be appreciated for it by other men who are just as curious as you are!
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