This is a cautionary blog about being over
zealous when the wife’s away and you have nothing but uninterrupted sexual
opportunities with other guys ahead of you. It’s not about doom and gloom, but
rather a brief guide to lasting the distance, enjoying this lifestyle change
and perhaps discovering some insights into your own place in the grand scheme
of things.
This is the sexual ‘window of opportunity’
you’ve been seeking. There’s 24 hours a day sex to be pursued. You can phone in
sick to your boss. You’ve got the cell phone to arrange sex at short notice.
The taxi has barely left your street before you’re off to your first liaison.
Your balls are fit to burst, your cock springs erect every time you think of
the sex to be had (and in the last day hasn’t that been practically every
minute of the day!) and you just can’t wait to live the life of an unrestrained
sex addict.
Unwise To Have Sex At Your Family Home:
Neighbours –
they know you are alone. They’ll want to ask you in for a meal or bring food to
you as the "abandoned husband". They can knock on your door anytime of the day or night. If there’s a
stranger with you, can you easily explain him? They note the business names of
any tradesmen who park near the front of your house. When that’s casually
mentioned to your wife on her return could you explain why you suddenly needed
so many trades people within the same week? They’ll ask why a man leaves your
place at 5am. Or why you didn’t come home for a couple of nights. And don’t forget
the newspaper delivery, the mail delivery, the garbage collections etc. The
little minutiae of everyday life needs to be maintained in between you having a
fun time. So maintain the appearance of a normal home life as much as possible. Friends are all well-meaning and will want to fill your life with activity with them, so be prepared to make excuses so that you can go off to do your own thing.
Stains – a
wife knows exactly where every towel, bed sheet set, bathroom item and laundry
detergent is located and how much ingredient is left in each bottle. If you
start using excessive (beyond what one man alone could use) towels,
accidentally get lube on sheets or worse still on other bed covers, then it
starts to become all too hard to clean – and explain.
Lube, Condoms and Disposal – buying them before she departs, hiding them, disposing of them –
these are all practical issues especially making sure disposal is off site.
Cell Phones And GPS Tracking – if your partner suspects possible infidelity or your teenage kids
do it just for fun, it is possible to track everywhere that a cell/mobile phone
travels to. Dad’s movements all over a city and especially at seemingly bizarre
times could be very hard to explain. Extreme I know, but believe me it happens.
Overall, the thought of having an
all-nighter in your bed with the man of your dreams and waking up for
additional early morning sex is highly appealing – but think twice about him
staying at your place. Better to do that elsewhere.
Over Zealous Sex:
Cock Damage
- with all this time available for sex you’re going to grab every opportunity
to have it. Your first day will see you making up for lost time and making
every man a winner. The first encounters will more-likely-than-not be full-on
enthusiastic sex. By the time you get to his door you’ll be ready to explode.
In bed you’ll fuck and be fucked like the proverbial rabbits. “How fantastic is
all this sex”, you’ll say to yourself.
But you need to pace yourself.
Sexual Burnout can happen through
- getting a sore cock through fucking without
condoms or over enthusiastic masturbation,
- cumming too frequently within a short time
span,
- getting a sore arse through frequency,
voluminous cock size or lack of lubrication when being fucked,
- physical exhaustion.
Get any of these and they can dramatically
abort any further sex that week, something you don’t want to happen.
Sexual Health: Don’t forget, the more sexual partners you have, and the less
careful and consistent you are about safe sex and hygiene, then STIs (Sexually
Transmissible Infections) can develop. Inevitably there’s also the chance of
catching crabs. If you’ve had a week of many multiple sex partners and especially
if you’ve had those sexual partners in the more public venues of bathhouses,
cruise venues and backrooms then it might be a good idea to scrub yourself down
with a suitable lotion before the family returns (see elsewhere on these blogs
for details). And don’t forget to dispose of the medicinal bottle off the
premises!
Unable To Blow Your Load:
A side effect can also be an inability to
climax, unable to ejaculate. Especially when your own head is lost in a fog of
sexual fantasies or your cockhead has been over stimulated during that sex
session, or where you are too focused on the importance of cumming, there are
times when your cock simply won’t comply. No matter how much you want to cum
you can’t. But don’t be embarrassed by this – it happens to every man at some
time. It’s not a legal requirement that every sex session must end with both
parties shooting loads. Yes, it’s desired by many, but chances are you’ve
already had a great session so you’ve both had the satisfaction of the
activity, it’s just that the icing on the sexual cake didn’t quite make it. At
least, you can leave knowing that you’ve still got your libido intact and a load in readiness for the
next guy - or if the pressure is too great you can wank when you get home.
Better Understanding Your Sexuality
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Enjoy New Sex Venues: As a straight man having sex with other men, this time on your own
is an ideal one for some self discovery, particularly about where gay men go to
enjoy themselves both sexually and socially. Check out the gay press online for
your city. You could find several different bathhouses/men’s saunas, gay bars,
sex cinemas, underwear parties, outdoor beats (use caution), nude nights, orgy nights, jack off groups, nude beaches, gay theatre, music
venues, car clubs, walking clubs, queer film festivals, swingers groups, gay tourists in city hotels, etc. Each one offers a
unique insight in to the world you’re curious about. Use cash for admission to avoid any financial tracking.
Understanding a little about the gay
lifestyle could give you more contentment over how settled and good your
current family life really is. Everything on the gay sex side of the fence is
not always greener or happier. This time alone is a good opportunity to
understand what you really do want in not only your sex life but the social
circle and lifestyle in which you are happy to participate.
Pace yourself, play safe, remain aware of
your home routine and enjoy for this short time what a different lifestyle
could offer if you so desired.
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