Tuesday, 11 June 2013

Your Penis! Keep It Healthy


You’re a guy and your straight sex life doesn’t excite you a lot. You feel that you don’t have to prepare for sex as your partner has seen it all before, no effort is required on your part to change the status quo, you know the routine. You may get sex, you may not. You’ll get an erection when required. You’ll shoot your load. You’ll sleep.

If any of this sounds familiar and you are preparing to enter the world of man-to-man sex, then it’s time for a make-over for both your way of thinking and preparing your penis as a mighty tool of attraction. No gay man will be excited to be with you if you carry this ‘straight baggage’ with you.

It’s time to sign up to the “Cock Gym Make-Over Plan”.

It’s about getting your favourite piece of manhood into sex-ready shape. First impressions count, so if you can excite and please your man with your look and knowledge you’ll get invited back.

1.     Taste: make sure your cum is tasty by including pineapple or apple juice in your diet. These two fruits seem to be universally praised for sweetening the taste.

2.     Cleanliness: uncircumcised men may under-estimate the turn-off factor that ‘cock-cheese’ has for many cut men. Clean under that hood so that it’s ready for an enthusiastic mouth to exercise it at any time.  And if you expect to be the anally receptive bottom during sex then an enema/douche before the event is highly desirable, in fact, mandatory.

3.     Safety: take control of your own health and sexual safety by always having and using condoms. Whatever size or shape penis you have, if it’s going into someone’s anus then dress him up with a condom. Use the right size for you. And add variety – coloured ones, ribbed ones, studded ones, flavoured ones. Make their use fun and interesting. Protecting yourself from infections is not just a bonus – it’s vital. Don’t forget to carry some lube that is non-irritating to you.

4.     Trim The Patch: it’s a personal choice, but if it won’t offend your tribe of men you are seeking to become one of, then, trim the pubes. Make it an easy path for your lover’s mouth to go down on you without the issue of having hairs in his mouth interrupt his love–making. A good trimmed bush will also make your manhood look bigger and easily seen. That’s definitely a major plus in my book. (Don’t forget to have your answer ready when your wife inevitably asks why you trimmed).

5.     Shaving: shaving the pubes and balls is a definite statement of your emerging sexuality and can be very liberating as an action but be aware that frequent maintenance is required and many men don’t like the look of a bald pubic area even though they embrace the idea of trimmed public hair and shaved balls. And how do you explain such a severe new image of yourself to your wife? Start thinking now.

6.     Foods: vitamins and male body enriching supplements could be worthy of investigation. These could include formula that include stimulants for encouraging production of testosterone and herbs that enhance the libido. Odourless dried garlic could also be good for the health of the blood.

7.     Tools and Toys: a penis can be enhanced by the addition of a variety of accoutrement, especially some form of cock ring or other device to keep the blood in the shaft and a good erection maintained. There’s a bewildering array of attachments that would not have been out of place at the Inquisition, so whatever takes your fancy it is probably available. Check out the variety on line or at your local sex shop. S&M or leather sex shops are particularly good for the more unusual items.

8.     Medical: if an enhancer tablet is need to guarantee your erection, then talk to your medical authority in advance of first going out to play. Don’t hesitate to talk about your need for assistance. As a hot-blooded horny male you deserve totally great sex and an ensured erection does wonders for the ego and boosts the enthusiasm.

9.     Exercises: you’ve probably heard your wife talking about the pelvic floor exercises required after childbirth. Do them yourself and you’ll transform your sex life as you will gain the ability to control your ejaculation. The exercise is aimed at trying to stop your urinary flow through muscle control. You can do them anywhere and at any time. And with your new skill you’ll have additional sexual enjoyment.  According to Harvard researchers aerobic exercises (including fast walking) and swimming can make a huge difference in lowering the risk of erectile dysfunction.

10.  Best Sex Positions:  don’t stay ignorant about the great variety of sexual positions that can bring pleasure to both you and your partner. Know that certain positions can enhance the depth of the penis whilst others will initiate wonderful friction deep inside the anal walls or against the prostate. Such knowledge will not only make you a wonderful lover it will also give you control over your own pleasuring by giving and receiving back exactly the pleasures you want your penis to be carrying to you – and the control. Last longer before cumming by knowing how to enhance the friction only when required.

11.  Underwear: put your tackle into a sexy package that will uplift and enhance your look. Look online for the type that looks best for you and that will make you feel super confident and sexually masculine. A confidant man is very attractive to potential sexual partners.

12.  Attitude:  meeting up with a new male partner should fill you with excitement, focus and enthusiasm. Being healthy prepares your body image to reflect your masculinity and if you have this positive self-image then you are the type of man that other men are eager to meet.

After Sex: urinate as soon after you’ve been given oral sex as possible as this helps eliminate potential infections. And wash off the lube before it irritates the skin.

So there you have it – you ‘best friend’ is now ready. He’s clean, trimmed, erect, device supported, has sweetness stored within his balls, is well dressed and he knows exactly into what warm and inviting male pleasure zone he is headed.

Best of all is that you get the pleasure!!!!  Enjoy!


Disclaimer: All advice and information given here on this blog is general in nature and non-specific to any individual, couple or group. You are encouraged to seek your own independent professional medical, psychological and counselling advice. 

For more details about other man-to-man sex issues read
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Wednesday, 15 May 2013

Jack Off Clubs / Group Masturbation / Wank Groups / Circle Jerks






Visiting a jack-off group can be a great first-step activity for the bi-curious man of any age, whether married or not, who would like to share fun time with other like-minded naked men.  It is a totally safe sex event.

Let me list a few benefits that might interest you:

-       every one is playing in the one room all totally naked (except maybe, for optional footwear)
-       all the men are masturbating each other as pairs or in groups, with participation usually mandatory
-       a wide diversity of ages, culture, body sizes and shapes attend
-       the lights are on high enough to see your partners
-       there’s a lot of conversation and laughter
-       there should be no attitude
-       every one plays in the one room so there’s erotic eye-candy everywhere
-       HIV+ men are welcome and their status is irrelevant in the play area
-       as there is no oral other than kissing and no anal, this is a totally safe-sex event
-       there is no pressure to perform sexually to anyone’s standards. No one is keeping check as to whether or not you cum, get an erection or shoot x number of times
-       it’s about pleasuring
-       it’s about feeling part of a like-minded community
-       it’s about group pleasuring and that’s so different to jacking off on your own or having one-to-one sex in private
-       you can actually touch and pleasure a naked man. Yes, all those lustful looks and thoughts you have when you look at men under communal showers can now become an instant reality
-       expect to find a good proportion of the attendees to be married men

The rules, which are generally universal to all groups include:
-       no fucking
-       no sucking
-       no arse play
-       no force
In summary, “no lips below the hips”.  This is a totally safe sex event.

Some perceived disadvantages might include:
-       it’s regarded by some, especially in the gay community, as ‘not real sex’.  By their standards if you don’t have penetration then you’ve failed the gay sex test. It’s my belief that they have missed the pleasures of the journey that leads to ejaculation
-       different groups use their own favourite lubricants, and these can range from sexual lubricants and commercial hand creams to various forms of vegetable and massage oils. Most will have showers to clean up under but you may have to hide or explain some residue on your skin when you get home
-       they don’t meet often enough. Once you discover this like-minded group of men you may believe that you have found Nirvana and that you want it to be a frequent part of your dual sex life
-       they often meet at night which can be tricky for married guys to attend
-       you’ll soon know how sexually confidant you are when you stand naked in front of some 25+ guys who are beckoning you to come join then for a play

In summary, these groups are very friendly and welcoming.

For a bi-curious man who enjoys his first visit he’ll realise that his sexuality is welcomed, his daily life remains as anonymous as he wants it to be or not be, he knows he doesn’t have to have the body of an Adonis to be sexually attractive to other men, and he can physically have totally safe man-to-man sexual contact without labelling himself gay, queer or bisexual.  He’s simply a man, enjoying the brotherhood and masculinity of other men, in a way that satisfies his inner yearnings for intimacy.

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Groups meet regularly in many American cities, Vancouver and in Melbourne (Australia).  The oldest clubs are the:

New York Jacks (35 years – meet twice a week) http://www.nyjacks.com/

San Francisco Jacks (31 years – meet 2nd and 4th Monday each month) http://www.sfjacks.com/

 
Update: October 2021: The Melbourne Wankers (Australia) after 30 years and some 650 jack-off parties, have now ceased holding parties.
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Thursday, 25 April 2013

MMF Threesome: Bi Husband, Wife & Male Friend Have Sex


You’re bi-curious, probably even call yourself bisexual.  You’ve introduced the idea of you and your wife going off to a swingers club in order to spice up your failing married sex life.  It would be something that you could do together. You figure that if she gets to play with other men that she might get her mojo back. All the while you get to not only watch her having sexual fun but you get to experience further aspects of your own bisexually curious nature with other husbands.  That means no guilt because each of you is exploring your own natural curiosities.

Unfortunately the swinger club idea dies – “I couldn’t have sex with a stranger – and certainly not in front of other people.”  “What about STIs and other diseases?”  “Do they always use condoms?”  “What if I knew somebody?”  etc.

Whilst these are expected reactions it’s been my experience that in fact more wives than you might consider like the idea of adding a trusted male friend into the confines of the marital bed if only occasionally. A known friend seems to lower the threat of damage to her image of her marriage and of her own morality. Similarly when on vacation when a spontaneous threesome occurs with a total stranger, that stranger is perceived to be of no threat.

When discussed beforehand between husband and wife, and then between husband and friend, it becomes a more natural event. Of course the friend should also be bisexual or at least bi-curious.  

Once agreed, every one knows in advance what is going to happen, so all that is needed is to set the date and the place. That means no kids, no opportunity for unexpected drop-in neighbours and no time limits. The night is for the three of you to be as anxiety free as possible and to be totally pleasured for as long and as frequently as you all desire. There’s nothing better than all three sleepily waking up together and having another round or two. A weekend away at an isolated retreat might be just the place.

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Alcohol mixed with chatty conversation is good for lowering any anxiety. Add fondling time in a spa or under a shower, a warmed bedroom, some aromatic candles (include patchouli or ylang ylang as these are both good erotic aphrodisiacs), some sex toys, some amyl if this doesn’t conflict with medications, condoms if you plan to use them and if it has been approved of, a camera to record some of the highlights. Don’t worry about playing DVD porn in the bedroom – it’s not needed as the three of you will be making your own erotic intensity.

The combinations for enjoyment are many and may include

-       kissing
-       fondling
-       oral involving wife on friend, husband on friend
-       eating out the wife whilst the other man gets a blow job from her
-       voyeuring as your wife and friend pleasure each other
-       filming as your wife is taken by your friend
-       your wife becomes the sexual meat-in-the-sandwich between her two men
-       having your friend blow you whilst your wife plays with her toys
-       watch her face and sense her excitement as your friend f**ks you
-       and again later in the night as you f**k him while she films you both
-       after the first two rounds sleep for a while and then begin all over again
-       have champagne for breakfast

This is a favourable way to have action with another guy within the extended parameters of the marital bed. She will appreciate the touch of romance of it all as this will help lower any guilt or opposition she might carry in to this first foray about it being dirty, morally wrong or threatening. If the event happens spontaneously with a stranger without the romantic overlay in place you both may need to have a deeper talk about future possibilities – but do this after your man has departed.  The stranger doesn’t need to be part of your marriage plans as after all he was just with you both for some good bi-curious fun. Chances are he has his own marital issues to sort out when he goes home.

Whether you have additional times with another man in the marital bed will depend on many factors. Perhaps the greatest benefit will be the opening of dialogue between you and your wife about your sexual needs, and the fact that they include men. It may be just the turning point that reinvigorates your sex life at home or it may be time for your wife to say I’m really not interested in sex or playing with strangers but why don’t you go out and have some fun with men. Don’t bring them home, play safe and don’t tell me anything about your exploits.

Sound fanciful?  Let me assure you that such scenarios do happen, and much more frequently than you might imagine especially if this is the second marriage for you both.






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e-book and paperback at Amazon.com or
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TALES FROM THE FUR SIDE: Purrfectly Adorable Cat Stories
A collection of entertaining tall tales, and (possibly) true, from the secret lives of cats - as told by the cats themselves!  Mischief. Mayhem. History. Heroism. Revenge and Reflection - this is life as lived on the fur side, beyond the prying eyes of humans – where wisdom, adventure and love mix abundantly with mystery, murder and exotic locations.  A treat for everyone who shares their life with a cat.

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