Sunday, 24 January 2021

SEX DATES: How Long Should I Stay?

How long do your indoor sex sessions with other male partners take? Based on my own experiences and observations I'd like to propose the following as a loose guide as to what to expect. It's very subjective and is non-scientific in every way, but tell me that I'm not touching on the realities of today's sexual dating scene. Sometimes there is pure lust which implies a quick event, right through to old friends meeting up socially as well as sexually.

 

Spur-of-the-Moment Pickups

You've been walking in the park, struck up a conversation with a sexy stranger, and here you are in his nearby apartment making out. This is pure lust, an opportunity to both enthusiastically admit that you're both randy as hell, that you care nothing about each other except being in each other's arms, other than hot lips, throbbing cocks and, very available arses. It's all very fervent, quick, and exactly what both of you are looking for right at this moment. DURATION: 5 – 15 minutes as neither of you wants to talk, but simply blow and then go on with your life. Expect nothing more than hot physical satisfaction.  

 

 

 

New-to-the-Scene Married Guys

He's just about ready to shoot his load the minute he walks through the door. He's been waiting this moment for quite a while, especially if there's been no sex at home with the wife. His balls are loaded and he just can't wait for the nakedness and the touch to send him into whatever erotic delirium he has imagined this scenario to lead to. He wants to fuck and have everything done to him, but as soon as hands or lips touch him, he's lost to any lengthy encounter. It suddenly becomes so overwhelming a sensation that he just wants it over as quickly as possible so that he can feel the dizzying heights of pleasure his mind demands. “Fuck! I'm cumming. I can't hold back“ is a cry that will not only assure you of a hot load of jizz, it will also assure you as host, of a return visit to relieve his guilt about cumming so quickly and about wanting to take the next encounter more slowly and much further. He'll wipe up, get dressed and leave within the blink of an eye. DURATION: 5 – 10 minutes maximum.

 

Experienced Married Guys

They know what they want from a MM encounter. They know that quick anonymous sex can be fantastic, though generally isn't. Rather, they are looking for an encounter that will make memories for their masturbation activities and sometimes, create thoughts to silently invoke while having heterosexual sex at home. They are looking for masculine approval, a male friend who is like-minded, that special physical touch that only another man can offer, the crossing of that forbidden threshold of kissing, and fellatio and fucking. Of including maybe just a bit of general, non-specific conversation. He wants to leave the meetup with not just a physical relief of having cum, but have a feeling of worth, of being part of a wider masculine community and one that gives him the emotional sustenance to continue with the family life he goes back to live with. But well he knows that sex, touch, and companionship will always draw him back to nice enjoyable male company. DURATION: 60 minutes minimum.

 


Threesomes/Groups

This is a setup purely for sex. It's not about emotional bonding or finding a new fuck buddy, or even having emotional or tactile pleasure – it's about getting off with other like-minded guys. You arrive, you greet, you touch, you suck, you fuck, you blow, you go. Depending on your level of involvement, how long you can last, how many times you can cum in a session, is what will determine your length of stay. The success of these events depends on everyone actively participating, therefore the more guys involved the longer the session may last. Even with threesomes, there can be a pairing between two of the three, leaving the third somewhat out of the loop. So, timing with groups is not about the length of the group's activities, but rather how long each participant wants to stay. DURATION: 30 – 60 minutes for tops, through to “as long as you like“ for bottoms being gang-banged.

 

Old Friends/Fuck Buddies

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These are the guys who are most comfortable with having sex. They know what to expect as they've been there and done it all before with the partner(s). It's a social outlet as well as being sexual. There will always be a relaxed atmosphere, perhaps a drink or catch up chat beforehand, laughter and more chat during sex, perhaps taking a break between bouts and then after the action is over, cuddling and naked body contact, followed by more conversation under the shower and over a drink. Probably will have a second quick round of pleasuring before heading home. DURATION: 120 minutes minimum

 

 

 

Bathhouses/Saunas

Luck and timing are two things you can't predict when visiting these steamy places. All you need to know is what time you have to be gone by. What happens between arrival and departure is the lure that keeps drawing guys back to such establishments. Individual encounters with other men can be few or many, deeply satisfying or mind-blowingly shallow, lengthy or brief. The men are all seeking physical relief and if anything else – like a conversation – happens, then that's a bonus. Each encounter is “fresh meat“. He may be to your liking, maybe not. But he's a man, seeking sex, and he's there right in front of you naked and available. Inevitable eye-contact will ensure sex happens. And of course, there's hopefully another guy waiting just around the corridor corner, so if this guy isn't up to scratch, then wait a minute or two and start cruising again. DURATION: 7 minutes for a quick cubicle pairing, 30 minutes for a mutually agreeable fuck session, 40 minutes if there's after-glow conversation. With 45 minutes maximum for any encounter, as within every guy's head his brain is either saying that he's still curious about who else might be available, or “how do I get out of this situation so that I can go home“. All encounters are transitory.

 

There you have it. "Peter's Rough Guide to Sexual Encounters". If you can see yourself in one of these scenarios, then take a moment to share that with us by adding a comment.


Disclaimer: All advice and information given here on this blog is general in nature and non-specific to any individual, couple or group. You are encouraged to seek your own independent professional medical, psychological and counselling advice. No endorsement of unlawful actions is intended or implied  


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