Friday, 9 October 2015

Male Water Sports / Golden Showers


In sexual terminology water sports / golden showers involve the act of urination as part of consensual sexual foreplay.

While this form of sexual play may not be considered mainstream or everyday by most gay or bi men, I am constantly surprised by the interest in the subject. It’s seen by many guys I know as slightly taboo, but ‘I’m up for it if you are’.

Location:
It’s NOT a bedroom activity, so you need a wet area such as a shower recess, a bath or perhaps a secluded outdoor location.

Preparation:
When it’s agreed to be part of sex it should be decided if it’s a one-way spray or that both will take part. That’s important, as a full bladder generally can’t be held back from release too long. Also important is whether one will be ready to perform as soon as he arrives, or will you both drink socially for a period of time before then getting started.

If only one is pissing, and he is arriving for the encounter fully charged, then the other needs to be prepared for an immediate dousing on his arrival by being naked. Holding back a sack full of pee will certainly focus attention to the exclusion of all other thoughts and activities.

Steadily drinking water over a thirty to forty-five minute period seems to be a good basis for a long and steady flow. Beer is good too, and for a fresher taste consume fruit juice.

Have your sex play area also ready, along with several towels at both the urination area and the sex play area.

Playing:
Younger guys will generally have a stronger flow than older men so take this into consideration when choosing your location and how the act(s) will be performed.

- Have your partner stand naked while you pee all over him
- Lick his balls while he sprays your head and shoulders
- Pee on his arse-crack letting the warmth run down over his balls
- Have him squat or be on his knees in front of you in order to shower his body and face including mouth if he is inclined
- Lie on your back in the base of the shower or bath whilst the urinating partner flows it all over you
- If your partner likes the taste, fill his mouth with urine (it’s sterile so no issues there though missing the first squirt that could hold bacteria is a good idea).

Closing your eyes while being sprayed I suggest is also a good idea, though watching a steady warm stream tumble down over your naked body is a turn on to most guys. A feeling of degradation, being humiliated or taking part in a ‘dirty’ act could flash in to your mind, any one of which could satisfy an inner sexual desire.

The feeling of warm piss firstly hitting your excited, expectant body and secondly, flowing over you as he hose-pipes it from your toes to your head, is a feeling like no other. Don’t necessarily expect a spontaneous erection, though that is a possibility.

When you’ve both finished that is the time for mutual body contact. Slip sliding around, skin on skin is a joyful erotic experience. Use your hands to spread the warm golden juice all over your partner, frottage his cock and stomach, embrace him from behind and squirm into each other. Give him oral and taste those last droplets as well as enjoy the new sensational taste remaining on the shaft. Kiss him and taste the erotic remains of the pee on his lips.

For me there’s a delicious feeling of decadence involved in this mutual abandonment of pleasuring. It’s not something talked about in polite conversation, but when you are caught up in the eroticism of abandonment and spreading his warm juice all over you, then don’t be surprised that you could feel the most sexually liberated person on the planet.

You can eventually shower and soap each other in order to prepare yourselves for the continuation of your lovemaking or you can slip off to the bedroom where you have already prepared towels. Two pee-soaked men licking and loving, sucking and fucking is a wild sensation. The pee will quickly dry but you’ll still notice its tang, its aroma and it’s subtle feeling of decadence now planted deep inside your brain where it’s heightening your erotic pleasures. As a result don’t be surprised if you have one of your most uninhibited sexual encounters - ever!

Water Sports for the Single Man:
And if you like the feeling of warm urine against your skin and you’re all alone, then it’s time to pee your pants. While watching porn, eyeing the boys in speedos or being just plain horny, piss away inside your jeans and jocks and feel the erotic pleasures it can give. As it cools the pleasures will subside, but for those few moments of warm liquid intensity it’s a tactile pleasure that can be as intense and enjoyable as any masturbation activity.

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Or if your stream is strong enough, drink your own golden juice.

Water Sports for Groups:
At the extreme end of water sports are the men who like to lie in a trough-like situation where lots of other men can piss on their naked body over an extended period of time. There are dance and sex parties where this happens near the toilets, hence no need for urinals.


If you're on the cusp of wanting to experiment with the slightly kinky or a bit of domination, then consider a water sport experiment as a possible way of easing you and your consenting partner into this new experience. It's safe, fun, tactile and very pleasurable. 







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Monday, 17 August 2015

Removing Your Internet Sexual Footprint After Your Death



You’ve had a fun but hidden life exploring your sexuality all over the internet including many areas that you’d rather not let anyone else know about. But what happens when you die? Your sexual internet footprint will not automatically die with you.

Last month I met from a gay dating site a very interesting man. At our meeting he admitted to being divorced and having a non-sexual lady friend who he shared cultural and social times with. He lived alone and therefore could indulge in his recently discovered interest in having sex with men. No one in his large family or among his conservative male friends knew of his private gay life.

Eleven days later he was dead.

His profile still looks at me each time I visit the dating site. But I have no means and no authority to try to get the profile removed. He hadn’t paid money so I suspect it will stay on the site until it might trip an automated bit of software that will eventually remove it through extended inactivity.

My cell phone contains messages he sent me. Will I receive a call from a curious family member who is going through his address book and wondering who all these mysterious ‘friends’ are?

I have a friend who was on Facebook. He has been dead for more than three years, yet he still receives birthday wishes from people who don’t know the situation. To date I have not been able to get it removed.

These are just two examples of hidden second lives that we all live and are totally unknown to our loved ones.

This new phenomena needs some addressing for when we die:

When we make our will is the administrator/executor we choose close enough to us that he/she knows of our second lifestyle?

Would they plausibly know where your passwords to this secret life are kept? Where the sex sites are that you belong to and visit?

Would they be broad-minded enough to cope with the images and messages that they could be confronted with?

And will they keep this aspect of your life away from other family members? Disclosure of your clandestine and possibly morally objectionable sexual pursuits could be difficult for loved ones to confront or accept.

Creating a Sexual Executor Document

I believe that when making our last will and testament we need to also do a second one – our sexual footprint will. This would have no legal status, but it would put in to the hands of a trusted loved one or friend, all the knowledge needed to quietly and efficiently erase as much of your internet sexual life as possible. As an addendum to your will document held by your attorney at his office, perhaps a sealed envelope could be attached to be given to a particular person upon your death. (By keeping it at the legal office this means that no one else need know anything about the envelope existing and it can be quietly passed on to the relevant “sexual executor” without the knowledge of your family or colleagues. (I know from personal knowledge that such additional instructions work well for other aspects of the deceased, from contact lists for funeral invitations, details about private bank box contents, to having debts paid out.)

Within the envelope it should contain as much information as possible, including:
your usual passwords,
your favourite sex sites,
your profile name(s),
the email address you use for your ‘private’ life (and it’s password)
and anything else that’s relevant including any code you use to disguise your activities in your desk address book

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As updating this envelope even annually might be difficult, make sure that your “sex executor” knows where to look in your home, your office, your new computer or elsewhere for your latest foraging.

This system is perhaps not ideal but it will be a great start to removing your sexual footprint once and for all. If you have a male friend who understands the system and who you totally trust, talk to him about leaving such an envelope with him either at the attorney’s, somewhere safe or indeed in his hands at his home. If he’s unknown to your family that could be helpful, and it means that you can update the envelope more frequently without your attorney or your family becoming the least bit curious about why Dad would have a sealed envelope to be given to someone unknown to them.

This envelope idea can also be used for your ‘straight’ life, as passwords to your bank accounts, community clubs, school reunion groups etc need to be easily found by the family after your death.

The cyber world is not forgiving. Whatever you’ve been doing on the internet can be traced, it seemingly stays there forever and when unexpectedly found, can profoundly change how you are remembered.

Take a moment to consider the implications of your sexual footprint if you were plucked from this life today. A little forward planning might be in order.







A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS: How And Where To Find Your Man 

When it is time to have sex with men, you need answers! 

Don't f**k up the potentially hottest sex time in your life by not knowing the facts. I'm the ex-married gay man who writes this blog, so I'm sharing my experiences with you in this easy-to-read ebook so that your sex with guys can be brilliant and always available. 

It's the best couple of dollars you'll ever invest!

ebook download at:


THE VERSATILE HUSBAND: Live Your Passion This is a more comprehensive version of A STRAIGHT MAN’S GUIDE TO SAME SEX HOOK-UPS and includes examining why as sexually frustrated men we feel the way we do and what can be done to improve the situation. Particularly useful for any married man who needs more detail  before deciding whether or not to sexually play with men.

e-book and paperback at Amazon.com or
paperback only at your favourite online or local bookstore.

For a plain unidentifiable eBook cover edition go tohttp://www.amazon.com/Versatile-Husband-Plain-Cover-ebook/dp/B009V5AXEI

"A straightforward, practical guide for men in heterosexual relationships who'd like to explore sex with other men. Frank, honest and understanding."Kirkus Reviews