Thirty plus years ago there was a widespread adage that,
for lack of proof, implied that any man who was by his nature bisexual or gay
would:
- lose interest in sex from around 50 years of age onwards
- lose the ability to get an erection
- have no friends or partner
- would be lonely, ‘bitter and twisted” and,
- would die without being noticed by the community.
That’s a really hefty load of nonsense baggage for mature
age men to carry with them. Unfortunately I suspect that many men over 50 do
have at least a small memory of that adage that sleeps in the brain and
occasionally when things don’t go so well sexually, leaps in to life with an “I
told you so”.
If this has a tinge of truth to it for you, let me reassure
you that it’s been my very happy pleasure to see multitudes of happy men
putting this old chestnut out to pasture and telling it to f**k off from their
lives.
Mature age bi-curious men and those who identify as gay are
having more sex now than they’ve ever had in their earlier life. I’d like a
dollar for every man who has said something along those lines to me. F**k
buddies, male bathhouses and Internet dating all continue to bring men together
for sex. By taking positive action to seek good sex these men are certainly not
lonely, with many an initial sex encounter developing in to friendship. Using
sex as the introduction card is a tried and tested formula for enlarging the
contacts in your life.
If there are erection issues these can be enhanced with
medication and devices. Pleasurable sex doesn’t have to necessarily include
penetration, with many a man who has difficulty in having erections becoming an
insatiable bottom for other men.
Mature age often means more time for foreplay – a spa,
massage, kissing, showering together, rimming, licking, enjoying poppers. Share
conversation and possibly include an alcoholic drink and you have a relaxed and
meaningful encounter. It can also mean relaxed day meetings rather than late
night ones. It means you have time to travel on vacation together and enjoy sex
with one another and with additional partners you might meet up with. It means
taking the chance to fly to another city and meet up with a hot Internet date.
You can visit nude groups and beaches, enjoy jack-off and special interest sex
groups, enjoy festivals with all their life style attractions of theatre, music
and sex events. You have reached that delightful time of your life where can be
yourself without any pretensions.
And by my reckoning, huge numbers of mature age, older men
are having heaps more sex than most young people. Just don’t tell the young
ones – and anyway, they probably wouldn’t believe you.
Above all, you’ve reached an age where you don’t have to
worry about your body shape or size. You’re expected to have the body scars of
a life well-lived. You’re expected to see life as pleasurable and within your
reach. You’re also expected to be forthright and ask for what you want. Your
wallflower years are behind you – NOW is the time for living.
When retirement from employment happens you could be very
pleasantly surprised to see how enriched your life becomes. I’ve observed a
strong sense of community with retirees and there is much friendship, easy and
frequent sex, a caring eye kept on the health of friends and a strong sense of
support.
If you carry internal messages that are not supportive of a
happy, diverse and sexually active lifestyle, perhaps it’s time to bid them
farewell. You deserve a sexually rich and happy retirement surrounded by
like-minded men. They are out there living their lives to the max – come and
join them and be free of the demons from your past.
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