Wednesday, 15 January 2014

Hotel Sex / Sex With Tourists / Sex And The Single Male Traveller


Enjoying the sunshine and view of Naples from a cruise ship - Copyright Peter Benn

I’m constantly surprised and delighted by the number of men I meet who travel the world on business, vacation or simply because they can.

Over the last month I’ve met men from Switzerland (married), Italy (gay retiree), the UK (partnered to female) and Vietnam (gay with older male partner), as well as others from interstate.

Some meets were at bathhouses, some by arrangement in hotel rooms. These sexual liaisons have got me thinking:

Sex Fest:
The sexual freedom that a travel “window of opportunity” offers to an otherwise partnered man is very alluring. If he is travelling on his own this allows him total freedom to arrange meets without any colleague cramping his style. One of my hookups was with a married man from interstate who was in town for some six days. When we met he boasted having had sex at least three times a day (though later I discovered it was higher than that). By day six when we met, there was plenty of affection, but no grunt left to maintain an erection. (Note to self: make future sex dates early in the traveller’s stay).

Rapid Spread Of Infection:
In our modern world we move from country to country in hours, and that can mean infections can do the same. If your sex meet man has been having abundant unsafe sex, use caution. Always have safe sex just as you would with your other local partners. It’s my observation that some of the travellers throw sexual safety to the wind and indulge unsafely for their few days away. Any STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) that he might have contracted will probably remain undetected until after he has gone home. Remember: Distance from home doesn’t stop the transmission of STIs. It’s not a protection just because you’re in a new city where no-one knows you. Both parties need to play safe by using condoms for any anal sex.

Lack Of Sexual Essentials:
If I’m visiting a man in a hotel I always take lube, condoms (different sizes), a couple of small “cum towels” and a larger standard towel (for protecting the bed during sex and/or as a towel for drying after showering), camera, his details (including phone and room numbers if available) and if you need them amyl, cock-ring and/or erectile tablets.

All of these avoid embarrassment or inconvenience to the travelling man. Most men travel light and can’t always easily access the sex essentials as easily as you can. You’ll be thanked for being so courteous and understanding.

Having Sex Like A Hooker:
Hotel rooms can be a great alternative to home based sex. In my mind there’s something deliciously dirty about arranging for sex in a hotel room with a stranger. That awkward ‘how-do-we-start’ moment, the getting naked, the huge luxurious king size bed and masses of pillows, the marble shower for showering together, the glass of wine whilst chatting, the ‘OK-it’s-over’ moment before taking your leave – they’re all part of a sexual adventure that takes me away from my everyday life. I can fully understand the adrenalin flow that paid sex workers have when going to a new bedroom. And I love it!

Bathhouse / Sauna Meeting:
After you’ve had good sex with the stranger and you begin conversation with him, you might discover that he is a visitor to your city. Shower together and then have a coffee together – it’s amazing what stories men can share with you. Those few minutes could be the most memorable part of your visit, and as often happens, they could provide interesting answers to your private questions. Only this week did I discuss the nudity of Cap d’Agde (a totally nude town in the south of France where thousands live and vacation) with a tourist who visits the town twice a year. It’s a subject I’ve long been interested in and a place where I’d love to spend a vacation. Taking time for a conversation like this is rarely disappointing and it is a nice way to share like minds with someone who might otherwise have very little conversational contact with locals.

Now, excuse me whilst I go and check the “travellers” section of my online profiles....


Disclaimer: All advice and information given here on this blog is general in nature and non-specific to any individual, couple or group. You are encouraged to seek your own independent professional medical, psychological and counselling advice. 

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