Monday, 24 February 2014

Wax, Shave or Trim? Waxing For Men / Shaving Pubic Hair / Trimming Body Hair


The current trend for men who are having sex with men, is to reduce the amount of hair on the pubes, balls, chest and crack – and in many cases, to eliminate it altogether.

But elimination of all pubic hair doesn’t have the same wide appeal that a neatly trimmed bush does. Yes, shaved balls are common, as are upper torsos devoid of all hair. The fact is, a hairless area between the navel and shaft is the area of most contention whereas a trimmed manscape is much more acceptable as it shows pride in your appearance and can add greatly to sex appeal. 

Before having a total shave (or indeed a trim), take a moment to consider who you are doing this for – is it for yourself or is it to fit into the ‘uniform’ and sexual expectations  of the group of men that you associate with or want to attract. Break with sexual convention and you could find yourself not so welcome in that particular sexual community.  For example, bears like their men to be natural and that means with beard and body hair, whereas if you’re young, gym fit with a body to match, then hair removal is generally a desirable activity.

Remember the desirability of a body is in the eye of the beholder and therefore what is right for one man will be a complete turnoff for another. So when you are deciding you might like to consider these aspects regarding shaving, clipping and waxing. 

And ask yourself the question; “If I shaved my head to a baldness level will I still appear to be sexually attractive to the men I’d like to be sexual with, or would it be a turn-off to them? Would a buzz cut be the equivalent of a pubic trim and still make me attractive?” What turns men off with a haircut will, I suggest, do the same lower down.

There’s also the question of explaining to your wife or partner your new enthusiasm for looking good ‘down there’. After a long period of accepting yourself as naturally hairy what is it that has turned all that around?  Start preparing your answer.

Waxing: Back, Sac and Crack:
Firstly, don’t try to do it yourself or let an inexperienced friend do it for you. This is a job for the professional. And yes, pain is involved – and that will quickly take care of any erection you might have had at the beginning of the treatment. With all waxing it’s total removal of hair in that region so perhaps consider a combination of waxing and trimming.  A wax will last for some 4-6 weeks before needing to be done again.

The Hollywood – is a complete ridding of all your hair on the back, sac and crack.

The Colombian – you decide how much of the chest, pubic and ball sac hair you want removed. Some consider taking it all off above a tan line thus leaving just a nice furry patch (with crack hair removal being optional). Whatever you choose this is the best method to create boundaries. Create your own mood and style.

The Male Brazilian - is the most popular for it lets you decide how much is removed and how much remains. Generally this is focused on a total removal for the back, sac, crack and shaft with consideration of some pubic hair remaining.

In Favour Of Shaving:
It looks good: that’s in the eye of the beholder of course, but many men do appreciate the defining look that you can sculpture

It feels good: the owner feels free and ‘different’ with hair removed. A body change also emphasises horniness and therefore concentrates the mind towards finding sex in order to show it off whilst it’s so smooth. Makes you feel good and strongly masculine empowered

It doesn’t hurt – with shaving foam and a safety razor (disposable razors are good for this purpose) you’re in charge and it is no more painful than a face shave

Shave carefully – bloodied sacs don’t look all that attractive and whilst cuts are healing there’s the added risk of infection. It can be that by the time you heal, it’s again time for removal of the stubble re-growth

The Number One reason: your penis looks bigger - both to you and your potential admirers!!!  What better advertising method is there?

Condoms, cockrings and zippers don’t get caught up in the pubic hair mass. So no more painful interruptions to your passion

No more stray pubic hairs lodging in the mouth and between the teeth of your partner. Oral sex is sooooo much nicer without fighting through tufts of undergrowth (well, that’s my experienced opinion)

Lube slides easily over smooth skin as do parts of the male anatomy in search of a good time. Smooth skin accentuates skin-to-skin pleasuring

Trimmed or shaved hair on your body can also make catching crabs a little less likely and it’s certainly easier to locate them if you do get them

Post Shave or Wax: Don’t put an after-shave on your freshly shaved or waxed sac – it will sting, but do use Vitamin E cream to aid in the healing and to limit any rash.  And to avoid the ever-present ingrown hair issue have your waxing therapist or drug store recommend a good skin enhancer. I’m reliably told that a moisturiser containing tea-tree oil is excellent as are most everyday hand creams.

Against Being Hairless:
Hairs, especially on the balls are an aid to cooling the body. So in warm weather expect a hairless sac to find friction against the inner leg especially if it too is hairless

Smoothness lasts only a few days (or less) and you need to shave again. Shaving is a high maintenance activity compared to waxing

Itchiness as the hairs grow back to normal length. Personally I’ve found that it’s far less itchy following a waxing than after a shaving.

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Trimming: 
Perhaps this is the best of both worlds. You can do it yourself with hair clippers or scissors, get your partner to assist in the harder to reach regions of your body or you can have it professionally done at a waxing salon. It allows you to look and feel sexier. It’s only a weekly maintenance effort for the pubic area, chest and crack, and a monthly one for hairy legs and buttocks - and it gives you induced pride in your masculinity. If it does nothing else, you’ll feel great about yourself and brim with a renewed confidence.

And that means a sexual glow that is very attractive to other men!  You decide.








Disclaimer: All advice and information given here on this blog is general in nature and non-specific to any individual, couple or group. You are encouraged to seek your own independent professional medical, psychological and counselling advice. 

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